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Unnaturally Beyonce

Beyoncé is hurting the natural hair movement. Now when I say Beyoncé I am not referring to her solely but because she is the superstar of our time she is the basis of my talk today. Like any brother I think she is beautiful, talented and worthy of her title of ‘Superstar’. However I believe because she is in the public eye I think she is damaging what a young black girl’s perception of what true beauty is. My definition of beauty is what is innately in us all. When a little girl  looks at this superstar she doesn’t see her natural self. She sees what she would aspire to look like. This mentality dumps her natural beauty and supplements it for weave, wigs and straight hair. All of these looks are fine. I have seen some stunningly beautiful women under all pretenses but that still doesn’t do anything for the young woman who is in search of her identity. By Beyoncé’s hair as a standard she is telling little girls to look like this and the world will love you.

I hear women ridicule their natural kinks as nappy hair, derogatorily speaking. I smile inwardly but what a torturous life she must live. Of course, I am speaking of natural hair over other popular aesthetics. It seems to me that everyday she wakes up and rejects herself in some way. Why is it so difficult to accept what is a beautiful extension of yourself? India Arie says, ” I am not my hair?” I say,” How are you not?” When you focus so much attention on making sure every part of your hair is properly placed. Your hair is like your skin it is inescapable. It is therefore who you are. Beyoncé types are not real people in the sense that they don’t let their true selves be on display for the world to see. They much rather suppress it, daily. In doing so, they become unnaturally Beyoncé.

The elephant in the room is that I am speaking to and about Black women who suppress their natural hair for other unrealistic styles they could never grow naturally.


Posted by on November 6, 2014 in dreadlocks, locs, natural hair


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63 Years of Advice

So a 63 year old man who doesn’t know me goes in on me. He says, “You gave good service, everything about was good except for your dreads.” He continues,” Do you know you will cut them in the future if you want a job.” (He missed the fact that he was at my job, he was hell bent seemingly to make his point.) Then says,” Haven’t you noticed that the guys who are in jail all have dreads.” I was floored at his short mindedness and confused as to why he felt so compelled to voice his opinions to me. I responded with a controlled fire. I told him that there are more guys in jail who never had dreads than do. I knew I could not prove it but just on the process of what it takes to grow your hair said that everyone isn’t running to the loc gods for a new do.
Here’s the bottom line to this encounter. We all have prejudices. I will not be exempt from the prejudices of the world if I cut my hair. Nor will I have less of a chance if I do not cut my hair. Mr. 63 meant well, but his argument was flawed. If I project a professional/ clean and polished exterior then what is left is whether or not I am qualified to handle the demands of the job. If I am bagged before I am interviewed then it is a loss. The loss can even be solely on me. However in the same thread, if I am hired it will not be because of my hair but because I was qualified. Mr. 63 forgot to mention he had a gold grill, though he was an educated man from UCLA. So I take his criticism or critique with a grain of salt.



Posted by on September 26, 2013 in dreadlocks, Dreads, Dreds, locs


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So? Just how long are you going to let your dreads grow?

Because I am in the early stages of growing my locks I get this question pretty often. How long are you going to let your hair grow? I would guess at this point in my journey about shoulder length. I am not infatuated with anything much longer than that. I think that’s my look. It’s manageable and easy to clean. Also I think from a professional standpoint rocking some neatly manicured locks would be stylish and pretty fly.

Note: The only thing that could lead me astray from my pre-planned destination would be a spiritual calling/ intervention. Then all bets are off. I will be a freeforming lock flowing mofo!



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My Response to Alice Walker’s Foreword in ‘Dreads’

When I first started this odyssey of locking my hair you (Ms. Alice) were the public figure that really gave me the courage to look within myself and truthfully ask, “Why have I taken so long to decide to lock my hair?” The journey could have well started 15 years ago.when the seeds of these thoughts were first planted in my mind. Back then I was much younger and a lot more aloft in my thinking so I don’t know honestly what fueled my desire. Besides you hadn’t written the foreward to Mastalia and Pagano’s book yet so I would like to think the time wasn’t ripe for my transition.

Which brings me to the foreward that you wrote. I am so glad that you spoke on the natural aspects and beauty of black hair. I honestly had forgotten that my hair was beautiful, though I know the comment you were making was mainly to women. I understand that you were speaking as a feminist and lover of all things woman to include their hair. But my hair is beautiful too, right! I took your comment to have a universal appeal because something took root in me when I realized what I had in my possession. I felt liberated. I feel liberated. I have black hair.

I am always entertained when you speak on romance. The romancing from a locked person is something special. I can only imagine. I am still in that phase of curiosity however. I don’t know what locked hair feels like or any of its characteristics.I have never touched anyone’s locks or even asked. I am a virgin. I want to know what it is like to be loved as a dreadlocked man and to love as one.I want locks. My wife is on a natural journey as well so I may get a chance to make love to a woman with locks. I will keep my fingers crossed on that one!

Can I call you Alice? Thanks. Alice, I really appreciate you explaining the simplicity of maintaining your hair.  There is no magic potion or a wizard who will magically clean your hair. In essence you said stick to the basics and I appreciate that. Do what you have always done. You needed to say it though to get through to those who refuse to understand that locked hair is like anyone else’s hair in the sense that if you don’t wash it your hair will be unhealthy. But even though you told them to chill with the stereotypes they’ll persist. That’s no one’s fault but their own for not getting the message.

You said,”  After all, if this major mystery could be discovered right on top of one’s head…what other wonders might not be experienced in the Universe’s exuberant, inexhaustible store?” You were speaking of feeling good about going natural. There is a sense of empowerment by being natural, accepting you. Because I am a guy, this feeling only came when my afro started getting some length.. How could we have missed the happiness that is with us everyday, naturally? You were right to make a point to share your joy. I loved it when you said, ” is not an exaggeration to say there is a way in which I was made happy forever..” I am warmed by your admittance of love for your natural hair.

I don’t know how you were vetted to write the foreword or who the other candidates were. But I am grateful that the stars in the universe aligned and you were picked as the writer for this book. You are a natural fit.


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Posted by on August 26, 2011 in dreadlocks, Dreads, Locks, locs, natural hair


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Seriously Nivea

How can a company like Nivea who sell cultural specific products not realize that their ad was an incendiary and insensitive swiped towards its Black customers. You knew the ad was engulfed with malice intent if the ad was decided by a panel before it was released to the public.

The disease of racism is ever present in America. It is is evident in the world around us.



Posted by on August 19, 2011 in Dreads


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Why touch?

Am I crazy or this really happening? I watch video logs of various people’s journeys with growing dreads. In doing so, a few youtubers have said that as one of their pet peeves is when people touch, pull or rub their hair! I am took it is crazy but highly infrequent. Of course, at this stage in my journey I don’t have this issue. Mainly because I do not have locks…yet! As an outsider looking in I am really trying to grasp why is this happening? Then I went on CNN’s website doing some research on some other topics when I ran across a story that was so similar to what I had been hearing on youtube.

Click on that link and be shocked at the national attention that touching someone’s natural hair is getting. I am still processing the whole thing! What do I do if I am so lucky? lol!


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Posted by on August 11, 2011 in dreadlocks, Dreads


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One thing I like about my afro is that it is so random when I don’t comb it but after I oil it up. I have really had days where I have had the mind not to comb my hair. As crazy as it sounds I am feeling Lenny Kravitz like. I want the freeformed wild but beautiful like nature hair do! Man where am I these days. At 38 I can hear the crowds saying I am suppose to have that one predictable style I rock everyday. I am supposed to be hitting the barber shop every Friday and playing it safe and typical man like. I feel you. I hear that. But as a matter of self empowerment I can’t comply. Life was meant to lived, sampled. It was not meant to be a caution tale of following the masses. If so, take my mind out of my head and give me the script. But even then I will read it my way!



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Posted by on August 8, 2011 in dreadlocks, Dreads


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