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Long hair, I care!

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The length of my hair is something I haven’t figured out how to manage. It fall all over my face in every which way. My issue is I don’t want to be continuously adjusting my hair. It feels feminine. I don’t want to shake my head to adjust my hair. It feels feminine. Lastly I don’t want to wear a headband. It misses my intent of looking professional, clean and neat. And yes, it feels feminine. So how am I going to manage this part of my growth, which I love? I am glad to have the length but not happy with how it plays out as I go through a day.

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Posted by on December 21, 2013 in dreadlocks, Dreads, Dreds, locs, natural hair

 

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18 years…

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I asked her how long has she been growing her hair. She said 18 years. Kudos…though I have no desire to grow that long. For me about mid ways down my back is good or just pass my shoulders. Other than that I love that she has been in the game that long.

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Posted by on June 2, 2013 in dreadlocks, Dreads, Dreds, Locks, locs, natural hair

 

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Cool Water Rinse

These days I am loving my dreads. So much so that I am taking more.liberties than I was when I first got them. I love letting the water run through them when I shower. I’m not afraid of the rain or do I care as much about sweating. Though its because of sweating that I rinse.

On liberties. I think in my heart I am a free former. ( a free former will let their dreads grow without much care for keeping them kept). I think I would semi free form if things were different…job wise. But anyway that’s not important right now. Just a thought…

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Posted by on June 23, 2012 in dreadlocks

 

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applesandmustard

The significance of this youtuber is kind of two fold. She was a fun (funny) chick with dreads. She was and still is filled with creative energy that I picked up on almost instantly.Her dreads were long and pretty. They had a very ethnic look and feel to me. So before I had one dread to share with humanity she had a head full of them. She was one of the people I watched constantly, especially if I wanted a quick laugh! But there is more. She cut them! The one link that I had to her was severed because she had to make a life over self decision and go to the military. Personally that pissed me off because you have to have a low hair cut as a military standard and more importantly to don a gas mask. Without a good seal you would inhale the fumes and could die. So on a life over self level I understand that. However, I never thought she would go in such a none creative route and personally I thought I would get to watch her grow from a third person perspective and be a leader amongst those with dreads! lol… i know I am pushing it but it was my internal opinion of who she was to me. She was a brand of humor that i just laughed at repeatedly.

    But a more serious question arose from her abrupt departure from the dread head community. What if I get that call? What if a job wants me but without dreads? It’s a lot easier to deny me at the interview as opposed to while I am currently employed with you. But what if? Would I cut what little I have amassed in several months? or five years? Is it just hair? Or is it like an arm to me? Those are serious questions when you press that against your family obligations that should come with automatic predictable answers. I know what I would do and I know what I would not do. That being said, if your job is not a life or death occupation you should not be required to cut your hair. From a societal stand point we should be free to express ourselves for as long as we are professional.

You will be missed applesandmustard, your dreads and how you carried them. They were as free as your spirit. Best wishes on your new career. Hope it last, lol. Keep the vids going.

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Posted by on April 4, 2012 in dreadlocks

 

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A Cotton Picking Wife

Where did this lint come from! Yesterday I was walking around feeling all proud and great about my freshness date: 03/01/12 only for my friend to look at my hair with the eyes of a microscope and say, “…you got some lint in your dreads.” I was ready to go code red and blow up the lint monster who attacked me!” When I back tracked in my thoughts I found a do rag and pillow as evidence of foul play. But how? I have used the same methods since Loc Date: 10/12/11. When I inspected my ‘do’ rag I found that it was worn with some lint buds inside of it. The pillow was found guilty because it wasn’t a silk pillowcase. The sad part about that is that I have one and I am not using it! So that’s when having a cotton picking wife comes in handy and oh! some tweezers! Thanks babe you were probably a great cotton picker in your former life! Lol!

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Posted by on March 5, 2012 in dreadlocks

 

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My Response to Alice Walker’s Foreword in ‘Dreads’

When I first started this odyssey of locking my hair you (Ms. Alice) were the public figure that really gave me the courage to look within myself and truthfully ask, “Why have I taken so long to decide to lock my hair?” The journey could have well started 15 years ago.when the seeds of these thoughts were first planted in my mind. Back then I was much younger and a lot more aloft in my thinking so I don’t know honestly what fueled my desire. Besides you hadn’t written the foreward to Mastalia and Pagano’s book yet so I would like to think the time wasn’t ripe for my transition.

Which brings me to the foreward that you wrote. I am so glad that you spoke on the natural aspects and beauty of black hair. I honestly had forgotten that my hair was beautiful, though I know the comment you were making was mainly to women. I understand that you were speaking as a feminist and lover of all things woman to include their hair. But my hair is beautiful too, right! I took your comment to have a universal appeal because something took root in me when I realized what I had in my possession. I felt liberated. I feel liberated. I have black hair.

I am always entertained when you speak on romance. The romancing from a locked person is something special. I can only imagine. I am still in that phase of curiosity however. I don’t know what locked hair feels like or any of its characteristics.I have never touched anyone’s locks or even asked. I am a virgin. I want to know what it is like to be loved as a dreadlocked man and to love as one.I want locks. My wife is on a natural journey as well so I may get a chance to make love to a woman with locks. I will keep my fingers crossed on that one!

Can I call you Alice? Thanks. Alice, I really appreciate you explaining the simplicity of maintaining your hair.  There is no magic potion or a wizard who will magically clean your hair. In essence you said stick to the basics and I appreciate that. Do what you have always done. You needed to say it though to get through to those who refuse to understand that locked hair is like anyone else’s hair in the sense that if you don’t wash it your hair will be unhealthy. But even though you told them to chill with the stereotypes they’ll persist. That’s no one’s fault but their own for not getting the message.

You said,”  After all, if this major mystery could be discovered right on top of one’s head…what other wonders might not be experienced in the Universe’s exuberant, inexhaustible store?” You were speaking of feeling good about going natural. There is a sense of empowerment by being natural, accepting you. Because I am a guy, this feeling only came when my afro started getting some length.. How could we have missed the happiness that is with us everyday, naturally? You were right to make a point to share your joy. I loved it when you said, ” ..it is not an exaggeration to say there is a way in which I was made happy forever..” I am warmed by your admittance of love for your natural hair.

I don’t know how you were vetted to write the foreword or who the other candidates were. But I am grateful that the stars in the universe aligned and you were picked as the writer for this book. You are a natural fit.

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Posted by on August 26, 2011 in dreadlocks, Dreads, Locks, locs, natural hair

 

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A Book I Got…

When you borrow a book from the library typically you lose the desire to own it. Well that’s me. I have never borrowed a book and then bought it. I came across Dreads by Francesco Mastalia and Alfonse Pagano with the foreword written by Alice Walker and just had to have it in my collection of books. The book read into me more than just a book. It whispered. Other books that I have read have had subtle undertones but this one was different. There was an internal shifting in me that felt good, real good.

As the river flushed down the canal it passed me as I stood at the foot of the delta ,I daydreamed. My time there was as quiet as the clicks from my camera that captured a woman reading in the distance. The wind ruffled her pages and wrapped me like a blanket as I listened to the washing of the waves. The sun was in retreat for the time being, so the wind blew cool for once this summer. The invisible force of the book was like that, it moved me like the water over the Mississippi, effortlessly. The force was as powerful the tug boat that rowed by me without even a decibel of sound registering. We were all on one accord. We were all moving.

I would suggest the book to anyone. It is a diverse and beautiful book that is a great read and a wonderful find. It is a culturally affirming, socially on time and emotionally inspiring. I have enjoyed reading the book since the first day I had it. I have read some stories twice, even three times. It’s a book for our times. Enjoy.

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Posted by on August 25, 2011 in dreadlocks

 

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