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Natro’s Special Guest

Yesterday was one of those days I could have talked all day to you. I would just went over our basics conversational pieces. You loved it when I came to you about my hot topics and I loved to tell you. Since I am in this blog with you our hot topic would’ve been about the progress of my hair and where I am with my dreadlock journey. I am in a good place though I am dreadless at this point. I have a simple regimen consisting of oils and leave in condïtioners everyday. On Sundays I shampoo.
I am sure you would have been my usual supporter. I would have been extra motivated and maybe even overboard a tad. But that compliments your charismatic ways and our natural relationship when we were together. We seemed to always balance each other though I felt like you gave me the biggest edge.
Yesterday was the day, 7 years ago that I lost you dad. We were close. We had our run, I miss that. I miss you. I dedicate part of this journey to you. Your support for encouraging me to be me gives me peace along the way.

Natrodisiac

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Posted by on August 30, 2011 in dreadlocks, Dreads, Locks, natural hair

 

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School is in…

It’s that time again. The fall semester is back in and I have a full load of classes. I will continue blogging, I love it. But as a matter of priority I am going to reduce my blog post to about 3 a week. I am thankful for all my readers and will continue to look deep within myself to find topics that are pressing me that day that deal with my journey.

I will also be trying a new style of blogging different from the journal type entries that I currently do. I will be alternating between maxims (dealing with locks) and my traditional entries.

I appreciate all my readers and I am glad you come through often!

Natrodisiac

 
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Posted by on August 29, 2011 in Dreads, Locks, natural hair

 

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The Social Studies of Where I Am From

Where I am from men wear dreadlocks. I would not be the only one sporting the look. I wouldn’t even be close. The identity of dreads could be lost here because the vast majority of men seem to wear the swag of the streets with them while their dreads flow in admirable glory behind them. Why behind them? In the sense of beauty I dig it. They are beautiful. But locks can be left empty if they aren’t defined with more substance. For me, it is like a beautiful woman who isn’t smart. I want my locks to be smart. I want my locks to represent intelligence and a degree of awareness. I want to meet those who harbor that likeness.

Lets clear some things, I am not a rebel. I am not radical. I am not contrary. I am not interested in meeting those who are ill towards humanity or the likeness of the natural earth. I am not looking for someone to yell Black power with. (I am interested in Black pride, though, that’s cool.) I want to talk about more than the locking process and how long my hair is. Though for a season that will be me, I am sure. Ultimately, I want to have that depth that is so attractive when I look behind my eyes in the mirror. I want to be transposed through my locks and be an indicator (a beacon) over the water crossing when travelers come by. I want my journey to have purpose.

That leads into my realization that there are those mature lockmen and women out there who are led by a spititual awareness that is certified through their journey. Even then I am not looking for a Rasta or and evangelist, there has to be some intellectually dependable men or women at the horizon. I want to meet them. I want to meet you.

It worries me that there is not much spirituality connected to locked styles where I am from. It’s almost just a hairdo.I say this because I approach guys with locked hair regularly and engage in a momentary conversation often. Our conversations are usually constructive but always shy of the spiritual connection between their locks and their philosophy and our conversation and their definiton of why they started the journey in the first place.A moments conversation doesn’t have to produce a spiritual conversation but an occassional hint of its presence is not too much to ask. Is it?. I am interested in the diversity and a driven decision more than a fad/ trend or movement without a cause. I am interested in you.

Natrodisiac

 
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Posted by on August 28, 2011 in dreadlocks, Dreads, Locks, locs, natural hair

 

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My Response to Alice Walker’s Foreword in ‘Dreads’

When I first started this odyssey of locking my hair you (Ms. Alice) were the public figure that really gave me the courage to look within myself and truthfully ask, “Why have I taken so long to decide to lock my hair?” The journey could have well started 15 years ago.when the seeds of these thoughts were first planted in my mind. Back then I was much younger and a lot more aloft in my thinking so I don’t know honestly what fueled my desire. Besides you hadn’t written the foreward to Mastalia and Pagano’s book yet so I would like to think the time wasn’t ripe for my transition.

Which brings me to the foreward that you wrote. I am so glad that you spoke on the natural aspects and beauty of black hair. I honestly had forgotten that my hair was beautiful, though I know the comment you were making was mainly to women. I understand that you were speaking as a feminist and lover of all things woman to include their hair. But my hair is beautiful too, right! I took your comment to have a universal appeal because something took root in me when I realized what I had in my possession. I felt liberated. I feel liberated. I have black hair.

I am always entertained when you speak on romance. The romancing from a locked person is something special. I can only imagine. I am still in that phase of curiosity however. I don’t know what locked hair feels like or any of its characteristics.I have never touched anyone’s locks or even asked. I am a virgin. I want to know what it is like to be loved as a dreadlocked man and to love as one.I want locks. My wife is on a natural journey as well so I may get a chance to make love to a woman with locks. I will keep my fingers crossed on that one!

Can I call you Alice? Thanks. Alice, I really appreciate you explaining the simplicity of maintaining your hair.  There is no magic potion or a wizard who will magically clean your hair. In essence you said stick to the basics and I appreciate that. Do what you have always done. You needed to say it though to get through to those who refuse to understand that locked hair is like anyone else’s hair in the sense that if you don’t wash it your hair will be unhealthy. But even though you told them to chill with the stereotypes they’ll persist. That’s no one’s fault but their own for not getting the message.

You said,”  After all, if this major mystery could be discovered right on top of one’s head…what other wonders might not be experienced in the Universe’s exuberant, inexhaustible store?” You were speaking of feeling good about going natural. There is a sense of empowerment by being natural, accepting you. Because I am a guy, this feeling only came when my afro started getting some length.. How could we have missed the happiness that is with us everyday, naturally? You were right to make a point to share your joy. I loved it when you said, ” ..it is not an exaggeration to say there is a way in which I was made happy forever..” I am warmed by your admittance of love for your natural hair.

I don’t know how you were vetted to write the foreword or who the other candidates were. But I am grateful that the stars in the universe aligned and you were picked as the writer for this book. You are a natural fit.

Natrodisiac

 
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Posted by on August 26, 2011 in dreadlocks, Dreads, Locks, locs, natural hair

 

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A Book I Got…

When you borrow a book from the library typically you lose the desire to own it. Well that’s me. I have never borrowed a book and then bought it. I came across Dreads by Francesco Mastalia and Alfonse Pagano with the foreword written by Alice Walker and just had to have it in my collection of books. The book read into me more than just a book. It whispered. Other books that I have read have had subtle undertones but this one was different. There was an internal shifting in me that felt good, real good.

As the river flushed down the canal it passed me as I stood at the foot of the delta ,I daydreamed. My time there was as quiet as the clicks from my camera that captured a woman reading in the distance. The wind ruffled her pages and wrapped me like a blanket as I listened to the washing of the waves. The sun was in retreat for the time being, so the wind blew cool for once this summer. The invisible force of the book was like that, it moved me like the water over the Mississippi, effortlessly. The force was as powerful the tug boat that rowed by me without even a decibel of sound registering. We were all on one accord. We were all moving.

I would suggest the book to anyone. It is a diverse and beautiful book that is a great read and a wonderful find. It is a culturally affirming, socially on time and emotionally inspiring. I have enjoyed reading the book since the first day I had it. I have read some stories twice, even three times. It’s a book for our times. Enjoy.

Natrodisiac

 
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Posted by on August 25, 2011 in dreadlocks

 

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What It Means To Be Natural

I learned something just the other day. My definition of natural hair may be different from yours, especially if you’re a woman. I have found that some women define natural hair as natural length. If they don’t use relaxers or chemicals to straighten their hair then they are natural. If you ask a woman to cut her hair off and grow it from the roots…naturally you will get a totally different perception of what to be natural means.

I am not championing one version over the other. I am opening my mind to interpretation. It is easy for me to be natural in the sense of just rolling with the hair God gave me. I made the mistake of voicing my opinion (I should have known better) about what I believe. Women and hair is sacred. Maybe with men it is not so?

Tyra Banks said it best on one of her shows. She was selling the natural look until an audience member asked her for clarification on what they thought being natural in its truest since meant. Tyra then explained that it would take her natural hair 5 years to make the transition to the length that it was at time of the show. But even then her interpretation is still hers (and women alike) to define.

https://terrencewicks.wordpress.com/2011/08/23/what-it-means-to-be-natural/

Natrodisiac

 
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Posted by on August 23, 2011 in dreadlocks, Dreads, Locks, locs, natural hair

 

Is What’s Free Dumb?

Freedom? Is to be free dumb? Last week my journey led me to restrain from combing my hair. I was set and content in that decision, though I didn’t vet the lifestyle fully. I work in a professional capacity. A few heads were turning, no words spoken. I was free! My definition of freedom: to move into a state of contentment without regard of the consequences. I felt liberated. In the midst of my freeforming I realized something. I am not an island unto myself. There are those who depend on me. They need me soluble and non controversial. They need me to comb my hair with a tool. I was finger styling. My kinks would disagree. They needed more rotation. They needed more freedom. They wanted to co-mingle and love one another one strand at a time, I was at my wit’s end because I was ready to commit, ready to reinvent myself. What’s worse I was looking for some known fact, proof that not combing my hair would make my hair grow faster, I found no such proof. Nevertheless my commitment was truly enough but a documented fact would’ve been a sweet find. So I increased my no comb method to one a day. One FAT time when my hair is wet from my morning rinse.

It’s true that nothing in this world is free. It’s also true that my happiness hinges on that cusp. It is never a bad idea to move to the beat of your heart.  So even though I decided to lessen the looks a bit I haven’t deviated from my ultimate journey in any way. In case you need to read it, I will lock my hair in a few months. I am committed to experiencing a more concentrated version of ethnic pride and adornment. There is no better intimacy than the love of oneself, no greater freedom.

Natrodisiac

 
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Posted by on August 22, 2011 in Dreads, Locks, natural hair

 

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